Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Springing Into Spring with Violets


When I was growing up, Nana, my grandmother on my father's side, raised African Violets.
Nana had a long and narrow sun room which overlooked a busy street in Atlantic City. During the day, she'd sit in her rocker and watch what she called "shady characters" spill into the street and dot the city like chicken pox on a child. Her English was limited to a few words as she only spoke her native Italian.
At night she could be found knitting in the dark. We'd follow the sound of her bone knitting needles up the steps which lead into the sun room. Her needles, which she held onto by tucking them up under her massive bosom, were round and flexible and clicked like a metronome. In the dark, by the light of the moon, her rocking silhouette kept the beat of her needles. And, along the windowsills were the shadows of her blooming violets. There were six giant windows eye-balling the pre-casino town; all of which held four to five violets in various stages of bloom and in a cacophony of colors. I never once saw Nana dote over her plants except to pour warm water, which had been steeped with egg-shells, deep into the soil. She never picked the blooms and she didn't have those fancy African Violet pots that are self-watering. She used, instead, an odd lot of ceramic containers, that today would probably bring in a pretty penny at an estate sale. She used her index finger as a barometer of dampness and a keen eye for turning them like sundials with the light of day.
I don't think there's ever been a time in my life when there wasn't an African Violet close by. In college, I had them on my windowsill when everyone else was growing other worldly plants. When I moved from New York to Florida, they traveled with me in an open box on the back seat. And now, I have several on my desk in my office and on the windowsill in my kitchen (some of which are in dire need of care).
I had an author who is a psychic visit me in my office one day. He immediately stopped at the door and said "Your grandmother is here, she's always here." It gave me the chills, and at the time, I didn't realize the connection between the violets and my Nana.
There's one violet in particular, pictured above, which is just phenomenal. This one grows perched on an antique dry-sink near a window in the dinning room. I've never given it egg-shell water, but it does have a special African Violet pot which is self-watering (when I remember to fill it up).
Today, this purple violet invited me to spring into Spring with its fullness, its life and vibrant color. Thanks, Nana. Here's to Spring, and here's to you.

Friday, April 13, 2007

What a Difference 30 Pounds Makes


One of my goals for 2007 was to lose 50 lbs by my 50th birthday. And, for those of you who know me, my life has revolved around my bathroom scale for the past 70 days. I thank you for your patience in humoring me during my weight loss journey. Today, I am 30 pounds closer to that goal!! That thirty pounds was blatantly evident on my face, my mid-section, my buttocks, my hips and my ankles. Now that it has disappeared, apparently, into thin air, I wonder where it's gone? I've considered what 30 pounds of fat could potentially look like when it's not saturated on my body. Take four sticks of butter (1 lb) and multiply that by 30, and there's thirty pounds of fat. But, where did it go?? Does it just melt into thin air? I'd rather it melt in my mouth in the form of a butter cookie, or on a buttered bagel or on a baked potato. I'd really prefer butter melting with onions and garlic, getting ready to be joined by prosciutto, heavy cream and vodka for one of my favorite dishes, Penne Vodka. Dream on. There are still plenty of pounds left to melt before I reach my goal. But for now, I'm doing a happy dance, that somehow, 120 sticks of butter has disappeared from my face, belly, hips, ankles and butt(er).

Sunday, April 1, 2007

Lemon Tree Very Pretty








Can you believe the size of this lemon? This tree is in its third blooming year. The first year, the lemons were few, but still gigantic. The second year, only a few more came to fruition. This year, about 40 grapefruit-looking lemons weighed down the mighty arms of this tree. In case you're wondering, the tree is called a Ponderosa Lemon tree - not a Meyer, as I previously thought. This year's crop contained a lot of seeds. Granny made that Lemon Meringue pie (pictured below) with the lemons from this tree.
Lemons are great:
In hot water as a tonic in the morning;
Squeezed into ice cube trays for later use in drinks, cooking, pies, etc;
As a deodorant mixed with a little alcohol;
As a hair lightener in the sun;
As an antiseptic;
And here are other ways:
http://www.electriclemon.co.uk/101/index.htm

If you're in a pinch for fresh lemons, I'm hooked on this great crystalized lemon product called True Lemon. I use it in water, tea, or just pour some in hot water. It's great for cooking, too. Click on www.truelemon.com and check it out!


Friday, March 30, 2007

Being Stoned

This is not about Marijuana, but, now that I have your attention, let's discuss the word "stone".

The Bible says "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone"...and if that's the case, well, there will be no stone-throwing in my immediate future because "people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones."

Leaving no stone unturned, I thought I'd come up with as many uses of the word "stone" as I could muster. Here goes:

Things I've done once: gotten stoned, hiked Stone Mountain, listened to The Rolling Stones, read Rolling Stone magazine, visited Stonehenge, skipped stones.

Food: I like stone crabs, but not stone fish; MSG makes me feel stoned; The Stonewall Inn in Greenwich Village, is now a bagel store. As a stepping stone, I'm eating more stone-ground flour so I can fit in an old pair of stone-washed jeans, and what with this diet, that may be just a stone's throw away.

People: stone-faced people are miserable; I'd like to find a good stone cutter for some gem stones I own; I've worked with both stone-blind and stone-deaf people; stone butches carry a big stick but have soft hearts, the first Harry Potter book was Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone (in the US, but in the UK it was called Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone; Of course, nothing is written in stone and I'll be stone-cold dead by the time I think of every use of the word.

Expressions: "a rolling stone gathers no moss" and "sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me". Which leads me to kidney stones which hurt me.


I lived a peaceful, stone-less existence for 40 years when all the sudden, I felt like someone was firing a machine gun into my back. Several years (and kidney stone attacks later) I was told I have a congenital kidney disease called Medullary sponge kidney. In other words, I'm a stone-makin' mama, always have been, always will be. My kidneys are a veritable pin-ball machine. Once one dastardly little stone leaves my kidney and travels the painful path down my ureter, through my bladder and into my urethra, another one lines-up and gets ready to follow the same path, again and again and again. I passed a stone last week which was large enough to cover Lincoln's head on a penny. It took a month for this bugger to make its grand exit, and when it finally did, I did a happy dance.

Being stoned is not all it's cracked up to be. Trust me.

Friday, March 16, 2007

Bebe Sophita


I'm a long-haired Chihuahua. At least that's what the Georgia breeder told my owners. I have what's called a "deer head" and I'm called a "chocolate blue". When people meet me they ask "what kind of dog is that?" When they're told I'm a Chihuahua, they laugh and say, that's not a Chihuahua!!! Some think I'm a Dingo, some think I'm a mix of a Chi and a Pom, some think I'm a Rat Terrier. Some think I'm just the cutest dog on earth. Most just shake their head. My neighbor named me Sophita after my predecessor Sophia, a Yorkie. My parents call me Bebe, thus, I am now Bebe Sophita, and I really am a Chihuahua. The breeders said I'd get to be 5 or 6 pounds. I am currently around 10 pounds. The long-hair part is a work in progress. So far, my ears, mane and butt are long-hair..the rest is taking its time growing in. I'm a digger, I can fetch, sit on command, partially roll over, stay when I feel like it and I'm working on "shake". I went to puppy school for 8 weeks and learned how to walk on a leash, sit, stay, and come (come is really hard). Luckily, I sleep through the night and I've only chewed a few things like table legs, chair legs and cardboard boxes. But, I'm just a puppy and I can. My favorite toy is called Kong which my auntie Gen sent to me. Gen, who lives in Michigan, adopted a Corgi from Kentucky a few years ago. Carmen, is now about 65 lbs and looks like a wolf. I don't think it's a Corgi just like people don't think I'm a Chihuahua. People call Gen's dog a Kentucky Corgi and I've heard people call me a Georgia Chihuahua.

Thursday, March 15, 2007

Nine Lives of Cats

I'm a cat person. My life resembles the life of a cat. I love to lay in the sun, snuggle on soft beds and cushions and I am a creature of habit who resists change with a vengeance. It actually makes me sick to my stomach. I'm not sure if cats get sick to their stomachs when change is in the air, but I have a feeling that their caterwauling is probably a good example of what I feel inside. My first cat's name was Pywacket (I have no idea how to spell it). Since my mother was deathly allergic to cat dander, Pywacket was an outdoor cat who lived to mew and drool over my mother's cooking. He'd sit on the fence outside of our kitchen window and watch my mother cook; walking the fence from the window to the back door following my mother's every move. She loved that cat and would suffer dearly if she were to pet him. Her eyes would puff and tear and she'd wheeze for days. I, on the other hand would spend my days with him on our porch. I'd color and paint-by-number on my belly and Pywacket would purr by my side. He was jet-black with a splash of white down his front. One day, he disappeared and we all missed his big black eyes and long whiskers peering through the kitchen window.

We picked up a tiger stray one year, but he tore across my father's massive bare belly one day while my father was snoring on the lounge chair on the porch. He left behind a race-track of bloody scars in his path and soon went missing. I think my father, who said he had to "go see a man about a chicken", took him to a farm and left him there to race around the barn.

We were cat-less for years until right before my mother's death. She found India, a pure black long-haired kitten. For some reason, she was not allergic to this petite Persian. India kept my mother company until the day my mother went into the hospital. She was so worried about India, that she had a friend in Ocean City take her in. India, being an indoor cat, snuck out one afternoon and got hit by a car. No one had the heart to tell my mother. Instead, her friend brought her a plush-stuffed black kitty and put it by my mother's bedside. Eventually, my mother went into a coma and died with the kitty by her side. She was buried with India, and together, they rest in peace.

In graduate school, I had a room-mate, Bob, who had a Japanese mother and a Jewish father. To top it off, he was gay. We lived together for several years with his cat, Nunchan (meaning "naughty one", in Japanese). Nunchan was a beautiful calico with a ravenous appetite. She was skinny, vocal and constantly on the go. Sometimes, she'd whip out the front door of our apartment and go downstairs to flirt with Andrea Dworkin's (the famous Lesbian feminist author) cat George. George was a girl cat. Go figure. My room-mate eventually went off to med-school and left me with Nunchan..she was 18 when I had to put her down.

Right before Nunchan was put down, a friend of mine gave me a kitten for my birthday. I named her Seja after an island in the classic feminist novel, The Wanderground. She was soft, tortoiseshell and a total snob to strangers, but she loved me. The first night I had her, she fell asleep in tight little fur-ball on my chest. In the middle of the night, she peed all over me. I guess she was comfortable.

When Seja was about 6 months old, I found my second Pywacket in the wheel-well of a taxi cab on 5th Ave. during a horrible snow storm. For a kitten, the cat was gigantic. I called him Rocket. When I took him home to Seja, she cleaned him up like a mother-cat would her kitten, and they were soul-mates.

When I moved from New York to Florida, I had to make a decision. I took Seja and left Rocket with friend. I threw-up from New York to Florida because of the decision. Rocket had grown to be a 25 lb baby puma. He was long and lean. I was moving into a home with another cat and dog. Rocket would have a good home with another male cat whom he adored. About 6 months after moving to Florida, my friend in NY decided to move to London. No cats allowed. She shipped me Rocket and when he arrived at the airport in a huge crate, the baggage handlers thought he was going to the Zoo, he was so big. Rocket and Seja were reunited and lived into their teens. Seja became ill at 13 with a huge obstruction in her intestine. She never made it out of surgery. Rocket sat by the front door and literally waited for Seja to come home for months. He lost a substantial amount of weight and started to wither away.

I adopted 2 kittens, Felix and Oscar (brothers), in hopes of lifting Rocket's spirits, but to no avail. Rocket died 8 months after Seja at 7 lbs. I kept Felix and Oscar locked up in the bathroom the first two weeks after bring them home because I was afraid of how Rocket would react to them. By the time my friends intervened, we let them out and Rocket just sniffed at them and returned to the front door. Eventually, all three became friends, but before long, Rocket just gave up all hope for Seja and died of a broken heart.

I know, as responsible pet-owners, that we shouldn't have "favorites", but Oscar was my favorite cat ever. His personality was so soothing and he was funny. He could catch and fetch and he was such an affectionate cat. I think there's something special about orange kitties. My friend Carol's cat, Marles, was the same way. He unfortunately had an untimely death as well, at the hands of a ill-tempered dog. As for Oscar, he'd gallop through the house, pounce on ghostly toys and shadows and look at you with those butterscotch eyes enough to make you melt. He was my bedtime buddy. As soon as my head hit the pillow he was there and would look into my eyes until one of us feel asleep and would stay next to me the entire night with deep-rumble of a purr. Oscar's fur was like cotton and I could pet him endlessly. Felix was destined to sleep by my hip because Oscar had the primo spot on the bed. Now, Felix has Oscar's spot.

Felix seems to like being "top-dog" since Oscar's sudden death. He follows me around the house and is constantly by my side when I'm home. At bedtime, he snuggles close by attaching himself to my arm like a koala bear. The only sign of mourning I see is when he goes and sleeps on Oscar's urn at night while I'm at the computer.

I am a cat person. This, I know for sure..but now there's a puppy in my life and that's another story I'll tell later.

When More is More and Less is Less.


This is me at my nephew Justin's wedding at 247 lbs in July 2006 (left). I started a diet on January 22nd, 2007 and now I'm 227 lbs. I went to www.mvm.com and this is what I am supposed to look like at 227lbs (below). It's pretty close, but more flattering than in real life. ..and this is what I would look like at my goal weight of 155lbs.

Wednesday, March 7, 2007

Granny Saw the Moon




This is Granny, who will be 91 years old on September 11th, 2007. She saw the lunar eclipse last week, and explained to me how in awe she was and how totally thrilled she was to have seen it:

"Mind you, I have seen this type of thing many times before, but this time, this time - somehow it was different and I don't know why. I was leaving the wild game dinner and heading to my car in the parking lot, when all of the sudden, I noticed the moon. It stopped me in my tracks and I watched the entire total eclipse. It was stunning. And, would you believe not one other person was in the parking lot the whole time??! I wanted someone to come out and see it with me! Once it passed, I just stood there. Finally, a couple came out into the parking lot and I told them to wait just a minute so they could see it go back, but the sky remained dark. Then, it started to unfold and what a sight it was. I'm so glad I went to the wild game dinner even if there was no rabbit to try. If not, I never would have peeked out my window at home to see this awesome sight. And, I've seen the eclipse before, but this one was special and I just don't know why."

Michigan moon shines
an eclipse in Granny's eyes -
open wide in awe

Sunday, March 4, 2007

Oscar

This is Oscar, my nine-year old kitty who passed-away unexpectedly in his sleep last January. I came home to find him in a position that looked like he had just finished giving himself a bath. He looked so cute that I was about to take his picture before I realized he had died. There even appeared to be a peaceful smile on his precious face. Felix likes to sleep on Oscar's urn at night.It's eerie, but sweet.

Orange and white fur
Tumbles like dust-bunnies
Mewing like Oscar

Felix Resting on Oscar's Urn of Ashes.


Me and My Twin!


Daddy Making His Famous Italian Salad


Recipe for Daddy's Italian Salad:
Lots of lettuce (iceberg)
1/2 lb each in strips of:
ham, swiss cheese, and turkey
sweet onions
2-3 hard-boiled eggs
1 cup grated parmasean cheese or locatelli
oregano to taste
some mayo
salt and pepper
plum tomatoes quartered
red wine vinegar and olive oil
Toss and serve with a huge smile while wearing an apron that says "Wine, Women & Song."

Bath Time for Me!


February's End

My mother has no headstone. It was her last wish, and we obeyed. If she could see past the satin and cherry mahogany of her coffin, roots would entwine her line of vision, spinning a web of life from the rose bushes planted above her.

cemetery plots
dot hills of green with white t's
mother has no cross

Before she heeded the angels' plea, she spent her days among tea roses which lined our walk. My father swore his coffee grounds gave her roses the much envied aroma of the neighborhood. Every morning, he'd carefully bury the remains of his dark roast beneath the already rich soil. My mother swore at the sight, protesting it was her banana peels which made her roses yawn at dawn and pray to the sun. She'd place the yellow face of Chiquita around the base of each bush like a Band-Aid; a sight which would cause my father to erupt with the laughter of an amused child.

blood-red black roses
rich as roasted espresso
sweet as bananas

On the 17th anniversary of my mother's death, my father planted the 17th rose bush above her coffin. On his knees in the bitter cold, thorns biting my father's hardened hands, he dug a hole deep enough to reach his heaven. He packed the soil with Italian roast and covered the roots with strips of bananas. And, there, like a wilted rose, he curled up and died, face to face with my mother.

this garden is full
it's time to come home to you
bitter sweetness blooms

Some Haiku

The mockingbird's sweet spring song falls flat,
for the winter lake is deaf still.
Sunrise flies skinny-dip
like skipping stones off the nose of a gator.
Letting go of their balloons
each took the name of someone to heaven.
squirrel tail twitches
inching around an oak's trunk
chasing himself silly